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Thursday, November 8, 2012

Articles on the Expert Blogger of healthyd.com (healthyd.com 專家部落內刊載的文章)

Healthyd.com 專家部落過往發表的文章,特別鳴謝過去的受助人,朋友提供的故事及部份朋友容許我把他們的照片用作插圖之用。
 
Below are the posts at the 'Expert Blogger' of healthyd.com.  Special thanks to my clients who gave me clues and ideas, my friends for sharing their touching love stories and others who allowed me to use their photos as illustrations.  (Chinese articles only)

70) 26.2.2013

別人的愛情故事-兩個很不一樣的故事

(Two true stories - i) a story about a lady who migrated from overseas after marriage but experienced domestic violence; ii) a story of a couple who started the relationship as friends and maintained the love for 40 years) 
69) 28.1.2013
性幻想
(Sex fantasies - normal for both men and women)


68) 9.12.2012
別人的愛情故事-命中注定
(A true story of my friend and husband - treasuring their relationship as second marriage; knowing better how to love each other.)

67) 17.11.2012
誘惑(下)
(Temptations to couple relationship - Part 2 - Preventive measures and we are not seeking a perfect person in the world; but the one perfect to us.)

66) 6.11.2012
誘惑()
(Temptations to couple relationship - Part 1 – Don’t try to find the imperfections in your partner)

65) 19.10.2012
不正常姻緣(2)
(‘Unusual’ couple relationship II – Husband is a lot older than the wife – Strengths for the relationship)

64) 2.10.2012
不正常姻緣(1)
(‘Unusual’ couple relationship I – Wife is older than the husband – Strengths for the relationship)

63) 19.6.2012
處女情意結
(The complex sentiments of men toward women’s virginity – Accepting your partner regardless of his/her past)

62) 30.4.2012
假婚假愛
(‘Marriage’ for other reasons – Observation of some ‘marriages’ in Australia for getting a residence status)

61) 7.4.2012
性與愛~雞與蛋的關係
(Love and sex – the mutual relationship)

60) 10.3.2012
第三者
(‘Third party’ – Cautions to the new parents: you are also somebody’s partner!)

59) 26.2.2012
當豆角遇上雞蛋
(When the eggs meet the beans (an authentic Hong Kong dish) – an implication to love)

58) 13.2.2012
別人的愛情故事~每天都是情人節
(Love story – a true story of my friend who felt she’s having Valentine’s Day everyday)

57) 4.2.2012
伴侶關係~加辣椒? 還是加糖?
(Couple relationship – Your choice of destructing or nurturing it)

56) 26.1.2012
別人的愛情故事~誰可改變對方?!
(Love story – a true story of my friend respecting the way her husband was and not attempting to change him)

55) 15.1.2012
有沒攪錯6~Friend 前性行為
(Ridiculous – Sex on first date (recent adolescent norm))

54) 7.1.2012
五覺調情之五-觸覺
(Turn your partner on – using the touch (tactile) sense)

53) 29.12.2011
五覺調情之四-嗅覺
(Turn your partner on – using the olfactory sense)

52) 19.12.2011
五覺調情之三-味覺
(Turn your partner on – using the taste sense)

51) 11.12.2011
五覺調情之二-視覺
(Turn your partner on – using the visual sense)

50) 27.11.2011
五覺調情之一-聽覺
(Turn your partner on – using the auditory sense)

49) 11.11.2011
偷食
(Affair)

48) 1.11.2011
念珠菌的獨白
(The autobiography of ‘Candidiasis’ – sexually transmitted disease)

47) 20.10.2011
別人的愛情故事~親愛的,晚安
(Love story – a true story of my friend whose husband said ‘Good night’ to her every night before sleep because he’s not sure if he would have the chance to say ‘Good night’ to her every day.)

46) 7.10.2011
別人的愛情故事~越過生與死
(Love story – a true story of my friend who almost lost his life because of liver failure.  In the critical moment, his wife asked the doctor to transplant her liver to him.)

45) 20.9.2011
別人的愛情故事~千里姻緣
(Love story – a true story of my friends who were miles apart for years owing to work arrangement)

44) 15.9.2011
禁色
(Discrimination against lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) – an evaluation from a sociological perspective – stop it!)

43) 9.9.2011
有心有力~男性的更年期
(Men’s menopause – precautions and ways for maintaining sex life)

42) 5.9.2011
燦爛黃昏~更年期女性篇
(Women’s menopause – precautions and ways for maintaining sex life)

41) 29.8.2011
禁果
(Curiosity about sex and attempted sex of adolescence – a realistic approach from ‘No sex before marriage’ to ‘How to choose a good partner’)

40) 24.8.2011
得唔得?你有得揀
(The effects of diet and life style to erectile dysfunction – something you can do as prevention)

39) 22.8.2011
性行為
(Sex behaviors – not restrictive to vaginal intercourse!)

38) 16.8.2011
半世紀的愛情故事
(A love story since 1940s – to my respectful uncle and aunt)

37) 13.8.2011
一個人的精彩~給單身的女生
(To those who are single – Don’t feel depressed but live life to the fullest)

36) 6.8.2011
回看單身時
(To those who have a partner – Don’t blame but treasure what you are having)

35) 2.8.2011
聰明的女人, 你有選擇
(Be a smart lady – a reflection of woman’s role in decision-making in couple relationship.  Don’t be a ‘mother’ of your partner!)

34) 31.7.2011
傳說中的子宮環
(Contraception – The mechanism of intrauterine device (IUD) for contraception)

33) 28.7.2011
從檸檬夾心餅中晤伴侶空間
(The importance of independence (interest, space, social circle and time) in couple relationship)

32) 24.7.2011
女為悅己者容
(The importance of beauty in keeping a relationship – not only the external beauty but also the inner beauty)

31) 18.7.2011
北上尋歡的迷思
(Fallacies – cautions to the people visiting prostitutes in mainland China)

30) 17.7.2011
不再羞恥~給受害人與受害人的伴侶
(No more shame – to the sexual abuse victims and their partners)

29) 11.7.2011
盆底肌肉訓練(Pelvic floor exercise/Kegel exercise)
(Sex after childbirth – pelvic floor exercise/Kegel exercise)

28) 26.6.2011
從藝人婚變故事開始...
(A reflection from the story of a separated couple – The blame should not be put on one side; responsibilities of both sides in marital communication, power distribution and conflict resolution)

27) 25.6.2011
預防子宮頸癌1-子宮頸癌疫苗
(Prevention of cervical cancer – HPV vaccination)

26) 22.6.2011
不一樣的選擇
(Another choice – No discrimination or attempt to change people because of their sex orientation)

25) 17.6.2011
吸煙與性能力
(Smoking and sexual performance)

24) 15.6.2011
有沒攪錯5~女性閹割
(Ridiculous!! - Female circumcision – as a means of controlling women in some parts of the world)

23) 5.6.2011
相愛到相分-給丈夫與妻子的()
(From intimacy to separation Part II – have a peaceful separation if it’s meant to be)

22) 30.5.2011
從相愛到相分-給丈夫與妻子的()
(From intimacy to separation Part I – not only one party to be liable for this)

21) 21.5.2011
從不習慣~經前綜合症
(Lady’s plight – Pre-menstrual syndrome (PMS))

20) 9.5.2011
LGBT
(Something about Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender)

19) 1.5.2011
大食有罪?!
(Sinful to initiate sex?! – a story reflecting distorted sex attitude of a lady who felt shameful for initiating sex to her husband)

18) 24.4.2011
執子之手~偉大工程
(The wedding vow – a life commitment)

17) 17.4.2011
有沒攪錯4~鍛鍊肌肉?!
(Fallacy 4 – Regular sex in training up vaginal muscle – a story reflecting a girl’s limited sex education)

16) 6.4.2011
有沒攪錯3~神秘小三角
(Fallacy 3 – Sinful and wrong to touch one’s lower part – a story reflecting attitude of some Chinese parents in family sex education)

15) 31.3.2011
有沒攪錯2~可樂殺精
(Fallacy 2 – Coca Cola for killing sperms)

14) 27.3.2011
有沒攪錯1~藍色巧克力與性能力
(Fallacy 1 – Blue M&M and sexual performance)

13) 13.3.2011
給防止少女失身的外星人~下
(Saving virginity of our daughters – Part II ~ a realistic approach in family sex education)

12) 5.3.2011
給防止少女失身的外星人~上
(Saving virginity of our daughters – Part I ~ a realistic approach in family sex education)

11) 26.2.2011
午夜驚魂~下集
(Horrible nightmare Part II – sex requests by partners in the small hours of the night)

10) 21.2.2011
午夜驚魂
(Horrible nightmare – sex requests by partners in the small hours of the night)

9) 17.2.2011
給女生的
(For the women… - What do your men need?)

8) 13.2.2011
給男生的
(For the men… - What do your women need?)

7) 11.2.2011
罪行~權力的彰顯
(Sex offence as demonstration of control – from criminological point of view)

6) 9.2.2011
性與愛,從新出發!
(Rekindling love and sex – a story of a couple having routinized into their roles for long time)

5) 6.2.2011
情常新
(Couple relationship – to be rejuvenated from time to time)

4) 1.2.2011
性罪行的受害人
(Victims of sexual offences)

3) 30.1.2011
養精蓄銳?!
(Withholding ejaculation for men’s wellbeing according to old Taoism ideas?!)

2) 28.1.2011
Cappuccino 與性
(The metaphor of cappuccino and sex)

1) 26.1.2011
特別服務?!
(Special services?! – my introduction)

Sunday, November 4, 2012

Professional Practice Experience相關治療及教育經驗

Talks, Groups and Workshops 講座, 小組及工作坊

11/2007
救世軍卜凱賽琳幼兒園家長講座-「夫婦溝通」
Parents’ Talk for Salvation Army Catherine Booth Nursery School  – ‘Marital Communication’

11/2008-12/2008
油麻地綜合家庭服務中心小組-「至情至性 性健康及教育小組」
Group for Yau Ma Tei Integrated Family Services Centre  – 'Women  Sexuality and Family Sex Education'

3/2009
油麻地綜合家庭服務中心男士小組講座-「男性性健康」
Talk for Men’s Group of Yau Ma Tei Integrated Family Service Centre – ‘Men’s Sexual Health’

3/2009
半島南扶輪青年服務團講座-「性治療是什麼」
Talk for Rotaract Club of Peninsula South – ‘What is Sex Therapy’

6/2009
男士小組講座及分享夜-「性治療是什麼及伴侶關係」
Talk and Sharing for Men’s Group of Zi Teng Association – ‘Couple Relationship and Sex Therapy’

(Remark: Zi Teng Association (NGO for protecting women’s right, esp. sex workers))

8/2009
男士小組講座及分享夜-「女性?! 搞定
Talk and Sharing for Men’s Group of Zi Teng Association – ‘How to Turn on Your Woman and Make her Satisfied’

10/2009
Talk for Rotaract Club of Peninsula South – ‘Sex Therapy and Sexual Health for Early Adulthood’
半島南扶輪青年服務團講座-「性治療及青/成年性健康」

11/2009
土瓜灣綜合家庭服務中心講座-「中年男性與性健康」
Talk for Men’s Group of To Kwa Wan Integrated Family Service Centre – ‘Sexual Health after 40s’

3/2010
塘尾道官立小學家長講座-「與子女同行性教育之路」
Talk for Parents of Tong Mei Road Government School  – ‘Family Sex Education for Early School-aged Children’

塘尾道官立小學家長講座-「共渡青春期探性疑惑」
Talk for Parents of Tong Mei Road Government School  – ‘Family Sex Education and Prevention of Sexual Abuse for Children in Puberty’


11/2010-12/2010
油麻地綜合家庭服務中心工作坊-「做個潮爸、潮媽-性教育家長工作坊」
Workshops for Yau Ma Tei Integrated Family Service Centre – ‘Be a Trendy Parent – Family Sex Education’
1/2011
油尖旺區議會「關注援交及網上色情研討會」講題-「對抗援交, 父母怎辦?
Talk for Yau Tsim Mong District Council for Conference on  ‘Concern about “Compensated Dating” (youth prostitution via Internet) and Internet Pornography’ – from the perspectives of family background, sex education, peer influence, media effects and theories of criminology

Column writing 報紙專欄
Newspaper ‘Economic Times’ 「經濟日報」專欄 2010-2011:
  • 安全性行為?! (Safe Sex?!)
  • 從入不得到入得-性冷感的治療 (Treatment on Vaginismus)
  • 入不得的秘密-性侵犯的後遺症 (The Secret behind a Vaginismus Lady – Sexual Abuse Trauma)
  • 援交的代價()-少女篇 (‘Compensated Dating’ (youth prostitution via Internet) – The Story of a Girl)
  • 援交的代價() -顧客篇 (‘Compensated Dating’ (youth prostitution via Internet) – The Story of a Customer)

Professional Involvement
Director Board Member – July 2010 to April 2011 (resignation upon migration)
理事會委員-7/20104/2011 (移民辭任)

Membership as Certified Sex Therapist – since 2009
註冊性治療師-由2009年起


Other Media Involvement 其他媒體

Magazine Interviews 雜誌訪問
Individual and Couple Therapy  個人及伴侶輔導治療
  • general couple counselling since 2006 (伴侶關係輔導由2006年起)
  • sex therapy since 2008 (性治療2008年起)